10 May 2017

Losing a small pet still SUCKS

Losing a small pet still SUCKS. Nourish ME: www.nourishmeblog.co.uk

Losing a small pet still SUCKS. Nourish ME: www.nourishmeblog.co.uk

Losing a small pet still SUCKS. Nourish ME: www.nourishmeblog.co.uk

Losing a small pet still SUCKS. Nourish ME: www.nourishmeblog.co.uk

Losing a small pet still SUCKS. Nourish ME: www.nourishmeblog.co.uk
If you follow me on Twitter/Instagram, then you might have seen me talking about this last week, but my lil Russian dwarf hamster Jeff passed away on Thursday. He'd not been very well, so it wasn't the biggest shock in the world but I was still pretty distraught. I thought I'd get over it quite quickly, and we've got some new little fluffy hammies now, which I thought would make the pain of losing Jeff go away. But it hasn't, obviously. I'm not sure why I thought it ever would.



Even as I sit down to write this, I feel a bit silly: are you really going to write a whole post on grieving for a hamster Steph?! Well yes, yes I am. I don't want anyone else to feel the way that I've felt over the past few days: invalidated. I've had people laugh and had more than a few 'it's only a hamster' comments, but pets are a part of your family. If you had a cat or dog that passed away at two would you grieve? Of course. It's the same for me and my little hammies. 

Grief is a thing, it happens. And it's happened far differently than I thought it would this week. I thought I was okay with Jeff passing, especially as I have little Frank and Sid to look after now (their names are just too cute IMO). But, I looked over the fact that me and Jeff had a special bond, and I don't have that with the new babies. Working in my office feels weird without him wandering up to his door to be taken out for a cuddle. I even found myself full on ugly crying at 1am last night because I just missed him so much.

The thing is, Jeff wasn't just another pet to me. He was the first pet that me and my boyfriend bought together. We got him when I was really struggling with my mental health. Getting out of bed in the morning and just being alive seemed a little too much. We got Jeff to help get me out of that rut. I had to be up every day to check on Jeff and his brother to make sure they had cuddles, food and water. Jeff gave me a purpose when I had lost my way a bit. Now that he's gone I'm just so grateful that I had such a loving creature who looked after me just as much as I looked after him.

All in all, I really just wanted to say that small pets can occupy a big place in your heart, and it's totally okay to grieve over losing them. Don't let anybody tell you how you should or shouldn't feel.

Have you lost a small pet before?

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14 comments:

  1. You're so right, they're not "just a hamster" or "just a mouse"' etc - the size of the pet is no indication of the amount of joy they bring. I love my little syrian to bits, more than I thought I would! He looks like he lead a very happy, content life and what more could a lucky hamster ask for!

    Tore | www.atinymew.com xo

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    1. Definitely! I've had so many people say that there's no point getting attached to them because they have short lives, but I love my little babies!

      Steph x

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  2. Honestly I would never, ever say 'just' about any animal - and I totally understand your pain! They're one of the family and its so so hard when any animal passes. Im so sorry darling, but Im sure you made him feel so loved while he was here <3 xx

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    1. I wouldn't either - everyone's pets mean so much to them! He was such a happy litte hammy ^_^

      Steph x

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  3. Oh my gosh - you've made me cry now!! I know how you're feeling - I've lost pets, big and small before. The first pet my fiance and I had together was a goldfish, and he died only a few weeks after we got him. I was devastated, and full on cried about it, but my family were mystified! There seems to be this idea, wrong idea I might add, that small pets (fish, hamsters etc) aren't to be grieved over the same as big pets (cats, dogs etc) which just isn't true. They all, big or small, become part of our families and it's totally natural to grieve them! Jeff was very lucky to have you looking after him, and I know you'll never forget him but in time it will get easier. Hugs xx www.aimeeraindropwrites.co.uk

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    1. Pets so are a part of your family! Thank you

      Steph - www.nourishmeblog.co.uk

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  4. I am so sorry to hear this, pets are like family, honestly my pets are more important to me than people! I am sure Jeff had a wonderful happy life with you! take care xx

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    1. Thank you! I so rate my pets over some people too haha!

      Steph x

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  5. I totally understand the pain you're going through and I am sending you all of the hugs and love that I can muster! Don't be ashamed to grieve and give yourself time, lovely. Your feelings are totally valid!

    I don't know if this will help but Keira Rose on Youtube did a video recently about grieving for pets as she's had some of her rats pass: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=moFaazv5phA

    Bethany | Curly and Wordy

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    1. Thank you sweet. Ooh I had no idea, thanks for the link!

      Steph x

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  6. Ahhh little darling hamster - so sweet! I'm really sorry to hear about him passing away, and grieving for a little hammy is exactly the same as when a dog/cat dies - its not different! I felt the same when my little Squim passed away last year :(

    Beautiful post.
    Olivia @ Olivia Roses

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    1. It's so horrible when they pass, and you do need to take time out to grieve for sure

      Steph x

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  7. I'm so so sad to hear this chicka - doesn't matter how small they are, they're still loved <3

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    1. They sure are! Thank you

      Steph x

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