13 January 2018

Finding my self(confidence) again

Finding my self(confidence) again

Finding my self(confidence) again

Finding my self(confidence) again

Finding my self(confidence) again

For a long time now I haven't really felt like 'me' in any of my clothes. I wanted to wear clothes that the old Steph would wear, or the old OLD Steph would wear (okay, maybe not the ugly slogan t-shirts that I totally repped in my teens), but I didn't want to wear anything that the current Steph owned. And it wasn't the classic 'ugh I have nothing to wear *whilst tugging reams of clothes out of my wardrobe*' scenario, it was more the fact that I didn't want to dress the body that the current Steph has. 

Recently however, I've turned a corner in terms of self love, and I've got a post all about it here. I've come to face the fact that even though I'm made to feel shit because my body takes up more space than it used to, I'm not obliged to feel shit about it. I spoke out about my successful shopping trip and buying clothes that made me feel fierce. This outfit is my favourite one. 

These New Look boots (similar here) are possibly my favourite shoes I've ever bought. I've been lusting after this style for years, but I've been too shy to go for it. I didn't want to make a statement with my shoes, and draw attention to me. But now I've got them, you can bet I've been stomping around all day, feeling tall and a little kick-ass just by wearing them. 

Red is my favourite bold colour. A red lip is always what I go for when I need a little extra confidence to put the pep in my step. This dress from H&M (which is only available in a size 8 and 16 in the sale now) is so simple, but exactly what I needed. It's a style of dress that I've always thought I was 'too fat' for, but when I tried it on, I fell in love. It's loose around my middle, the neckline is beautiful and it's the perfect coral-y shade of red. The dream. Realising that this shift dress actually looked good on me made me realise that it wasn't my added weight making me look bad, it was my own mind restricting myself to things that would make me blur into the background. 

Now I finally have that little bit of self confidence back. I'm ready to head out tonight in this exact outfit with a pair of statement earrings and have a tasty AF meal without worrying that eating in this outfit will 'make me look fat'. I'm ready to buy a buttload more clothes that make me feel as though I can take on the world, and finally, I'm ready to absolutely rock this year.

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10 comments:

  1. I totally understand you...I grew up surrounded by people always putting me down for being bigger than them...some days I still struggle with it. I think you look gorgeous and the dress and boots suit you perfectly =) <3

    xo, Rosie //Curvy Life stories

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    1. It's so hard when people that are supposed to love you attack you for the way you look. Sending lots of love

      Steph x

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  2. You look AMAZING Steph!! I know some of those toxic feelings oh so well. But you are truly stunning, and Im so glad to see you a little more confident! x

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    1. Thank you so much Jemma <3 that means a lot to me!

      Steph x

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  3. You look bloody great and so happy! I'm the same in that I don't really want to wear anything that I currently own. I always stick on the same old things - a pair of jeans that are so old and probably need to be binned, boots and whatever jumper/top hides my belly. I'm often too scared to buy clothes/shoes that I actually like as I think I'll look fat or it'll draw attention to me, but I should take a leaf outta your book as that dress and those boots are frickin' gorgeous!!

    Melissa x | www.memoriesandmishapsblog.wordpress.com

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    1. Thank you so much! I'm so sick of always wearing things that I feel rubbish in, to make myself feel 'better' but it never really works!

      Steph x

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  4. Red is definitely your colour, Steph. And I LOVE the boots. Ideal for kicking ass in!

    Lis / last year's girl x

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    1. Thank you so much - I LOVE wearing red, and I really need to remember this and wear it more often!

      Steph x

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  5. LOVE this outfit!! I think this post is beautifully written, and I've had similar feelings to this - but I've found what works for me and I'm happy as I am :) Tania Michele xx

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    1. Thank you so much! I'm really trying to work on being happy as I am

      Steph x

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