21 October 2018

Why waste time on negativity?

Why waste time on negativity? -  www.nourishmeblog.co.uk

There's a whole lot of malicious content slamming us in the face all over the internet right now. From vile comments on every single Youtube video you come across, to *that* rant about Mrs Hinch and feminism, it feels as though everyone is on a campaign to destroy any ounce of positivity anyone has. 

And I just don't understand it. I mean, I get fully hating someone, or something, or a situation and raging about it. I feel the rage. But going into a full on offensive all the time is just not worth it. Repeatedly watching the videos of Youtubers you hate just to point out their imperfections, or scouring tweets from ten years ago to see if someone said something problematic is just a complete waste of your time and skills and energy. 

It's something that's taken me a while to conclude, and I'm pretty glad that angsty hormonal 14-year-old me didn't have twitter or Instagram, or spend a lot of time watching vlogs, because I probably would have gotten fired up and raged online (if my general anxiety wasn't all over the place). It's something that if I had done, I'd look back now and absolutely cringe at how much of a bellend I was.

Honestly, it's something I've really been working on in the past few years. Not just trying not to be rude online, but trying not to spread negativity into the world, especially online. It's just completely draining to allow yourself to be consumed by your own negative thoughts and fuel them into other people's feeds. And it's not worth it, even for the almost catharsis of expressing it online.

It's a Sunday, and I'm determined not to bring this week's negativity into Monday. I've done some yoga, chatted through my feelings to those I love, and I'm ready to take on the next week without bringing my rage and hatred and horrible thoughts on (as much as I am able to keep them at bay). 

But what I really wanted to get across in this post is how utterly pointless it is to spread hate online, even about the people you know are kinda awful human beings. Yes, it's important for people to be aware that their Insta idol might be a *bit* problematic, but deciding they're 'cancelled', sending vile messages to them, and inciting others to do the same is simply not worth it. 

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  1. I am right there with you on this one. I was angsty as a teen, but as I got older, I realized I was putting way too much time and energy into being mad about stuff. I decided to try to keep it positive, and also surround myself with less negativity when I can. I scaled back my time on social media and have used that mute option often.

    1. I think we all go through a phase of it as a teen - it's such a tough time in your life!

      Steph x


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